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Real Men

First, a link: http://www.cnn.com/2012/07/25/opinion/bennett-aurora-three/index.html?hpt=hp_c1

Three men were sitting in that Aurora movie theater with their girlfriends when a mad man opened fire. Without thinking, all three leaped to put themselves between the shooter and a woman to which they had no legal or familial obligation, dying in the process. Three men, all in their twenties, sacrificed themselves without a moments hesitation.

It’s easy to understand a man risking himself for his family. Ask any father about protecting his wife and kids and you’ll see a look in his eyes more eloquent than anything he can say. It simply says “No. Nothing will hurt them.”

It’s also understood that an adult will put himself (or herself) at risk to protect a child, regardless of whether or not it’s theirs or if they even know the kid. Stories of people unhesitatingly putting their lives in danger, and sometimes losing them, in order to save a child they had never laid eyes on a minute before are not unusual. I remember one story where a child fell into a raging river and THREE adults died saving her, none of them family. Scientist say the human animal has an instinctive hard coding that makes us protect the young because it’s what keeps the species alive.

But why did three adult men unhesitatingly throw their lives away to protect these adult women? It wasn’t to score points with them, that’s for sure. They didn’t have time to think “Wow, if I protect her now she’ll REALLY like me.”

Chivalry maybe? When the girls agreed to go out on the date with them, the men decided that they had some sacred obligation to defend them- laying down their lives if needed. I think this strikes closer to the truth… but doesn’t quite hit it.

Imagine a scene where any of these guys went to the movie alone and happened to be sitting next to a girl who was also at the movie alone:
Him: “Hi. My friends think I’m such a geek for coming here alone for a midnight showing of a Batman movie.”
Her: “Yeah, mine too.”

Does ANYBODY doubt that, as soon as the bullets started flying that, based on that little exchange, any one of these guys would have done everything he could to protect this girl who was there alone… unprotected? Of course he would.

Why? Because they were REAL men. It’s that simple. All of us that pee standing up secretly hope that, when push comes to shove, we will be real men and won’t collapse in a weeping pile of cowardice. We all secretly fear that, deep down, we won’t have it in us to do “the right thing”. That we won’t pass the test.

Jon Blunk, Alex Teves and Matt McQuinn took the test and passed it.

Why?

This will never be a political blog.

I will not go into who I’m voting for in November.

I will not express my opinion on the Joe Paterno statue.

I will not debate the validity of the 2nd Amendment in a day where the chances for indians or wild animals attacking my home are quite low.

Tonight, I will just say this…

It’s wrong in every conceivable way that some kid can finally work up the nerve to ask his dream girl out on a date, take her to the “big summer movie”, worry about when to “make his move” and suddenly take a bullet to the head because some total lunatic who thinks of himself as the Joker happens to be in the same room.

I can understand death. Death and it’s inevitability is the thing that keeps all of us paying attention to today. Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed, so never leave an “I love you” or an “I forgive you” unsaid.

I was able to come to grips with 9/11… some people hate us and attacked the symbols of American business and the military.

I understand that accidents happen… a rubber tube snaps at the wrong time and a van crashes, killing ten kids on a field trip. Randomness is built into the equation when you get up in the morning.

But the idea that people died sitting in a movie theater because somebody with mental problems decided to kill them… that is NOT the randomness that comes with daily life.

That is evil. Senseless, remorseless, evil.

I uninstalled DC Universe Online this weekend. I used to enjoy the game, but I just can’t see myself ever being able to play a character in that “world” again. I used to love the Joker as a character and I thought that Heath Ledger was brilliant in the role… but now all I can think of when I see that painted face is… why?

My thoughts are with the families of the victim They’ll never be able to get past this because there will never be an answer to the most important question…. why?